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Creating a thumb-stopping dating profile can be hard enough, but what happens when you actually get a match?
You then have to craft the perfect opening line and be charming enough to secure a date, which can often lead to overthinking, decision paralysis, and inevitably sending screenshots of messages to your friends in your group chat.
This desire to stand out among countless matches has led people to take a rather creative approach as of late and turn to AI to help them in their dating lives.
It’s something which is proving popular, yet naturally controversial.
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Relationship expert weighs in on AI in dating
Relationship and intimacy coach Susie Kim recognises the challenges many face on dating apps, from lacklustre conversations to people “ghosting” their matches.
“A lot of clients come to me feeling sick of the dating app experience as a whole - boring, repetitive conversations, not getting replies, and feeling like they’re not meeting the right people,” she said.
“Essentially, they feel like there is a whole lot of effort that is not translating to positive dating experiences in real life. Having said that, what I see is that a lot of people don’t have a practical dating strategy in place that makes the apps experience a more easeful, enjoyable one.”
For some of her male clients, AI offers a helping hand.
“They know women get flooded with likes and messages, so they want to improve their chat game,” Ms Kim, who is a relationship coach for high achievers, explained.
“Personally, I think that anything that makes the dating experience easier is worth it, because one of the biggest problems I see is that people are on and off with dating itself. If you can find ways to make dating more sustainable, fun or easy for you, do it!”
Ms Kim suggests her clients use it as a “source of inspiration” on fun ways to respond or ask interesting questions.
“It’s never about being disingenuous, it’s about being yourself, amplified,” she explained.
For those looking to level up their dating profiles, with or without AI, Ms Kim encouraged people to be “authentic, not generic.”
“Dial into some specific things about yourself, and dial it up a few touches,” she advised.
“This means being specific about what you’re wanting and highlighting your interests but going beyond things that are obvious. If you can zero in on deeper interests or experiences that genuinely reflect your values and quirks, it will turn some people off, but also attract better-quality matches. People who want solid relationships are looking for authenticity and cut-through these days, and there is a big soup of same-same on the apps.”